We are in the lobby waiting for our OT and three boys about D’s age are playing with the waiting room toys. I watch Diego watch them, I know he wants to play with them. I whisper to him “baby go ask them if you can play with them.”
He starts to rubs my ears, he is nervous.
“Baby it is ok, go on.”
I long to hear him say this to any child, but just like all of the other times he looks at me and says “I can’t.”
He is past nervous now, he is paralyzed with fear at the prospect of approaching these kids.
His anxiety is palpable.
I am trying to think of ways to facilitate this interaction. I offer to walk with him over, he says no.
He crawls in my lap, pulls my head to his face and whispers
My heart is broken for the umpteenth time.
You can say a lot about our kids, but please don’t tell us that they are not interested in having friends. As line #4 states if Diego had 100 friends, he would play with them.
Our kids WANT to be social.